Recently, we read a posting by a law enforcement professional who stated something very similar to, “Parents thinking they can keep up with their kids on social media and technology is like trying to out-sprint a cheetah, no matter how hard you train, you’re just not built for that speed!”
It’s a clever line meant to get a laugh, but this way of thinking presents a real problem when it comes to kids and technology, it’s simply not true. Worse, it sets parents and caregivers up for failure before they even begin. Unfortunately, some in our industry seem to promote this type of narrative, in what we believe is a clear attempt to dissuade parents and caregivers from allowing youth and teens to use technology, the internet, and social media. This mindset creates a self-fulfilling prophecy, leading parents and caregivers to believe they’re inherently incapable of understanding technology and social media, so they don’t even try. The reality? Most parents and caregivers can become digitally literate, it just takes time, effort, and a willingness to learn.
The idea that parents and caregivers can never “keep up” with their kids on social media is rooted in the misconception that young people are naturally more skilled with technology simply because they were born into a digital world. While kids may be familiar with digital platforms, that doesn’t mean they have a deep understanding of how they work, their risks, or their long-term consequences. Parents, with their life experience and critical thinking skills, are more than capable of learning how technology and social media operates and guiding their children effectively, especially today’s new parents and caregivers.
Parents are not incapable of understanding technology and social media; they just need to take the time to learn. Just like any other skill, such as cooking, driving, or budgeting, parental digital literacy is something that can be developed with practice. There are countless free resources available online, including tutorials, webinars, and even courses designed specifically for parents to get up to speed on social media platforms, privacy settings, and online safety. Something we excel at here at the White Hatter.
What truly matters isn’t whether parents or caregivers know every single feature of TikTok, Instagram, or Snapchat, but whether they take an active role in their child’s digital life. Parents and caregivers who show genuine curiosity and ask their kids about what they’re doing online often gain valuable insights. This not only helps them understand social media better but also strengthens their relationship with their child. Open communication fosters trust, which is far more effective than simply trying to monitor from the sidelines through the use of technology.
When parents and caregivers buy into the idea that they’ll never keep up, they often disengage entirely. This creates a dangerous gap where kids are left to navigate the online world alone, making them more vulnerable to issues like cyberbullying, online predators, and misinformation. By contrast, parents and caregivers who actively learn and participate in digital conversations with their kids can provide the guidance and support that young people need to make responsible online choices.
So what can parents and caregivers do today?
- Choose one platform your child uses and explore it. Watch tutorials, read about its features, and understand its privacy settings. We have a ton of free resources on our web page that can help www.thewhitehatter.ca
- Instead of assuming, talk to your kids. Ask what they enjoy about social media, what trends they follow, and if they have any concerns.
- Show your children that learning never stops. Be mindful of your own online habits and demonstrate responsible social media use.
- Many online forums and groups focus on digital parenting. Engaging with other parents can provide valuable insights and tips.
- Technology changes quickly, but you don’t need to master everything overnight. Stay curious and check in regularly on new trends. One of the best way to do this is to follow us online via our website and our other social media platform such as Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, Bluesky
The idea that parents can’t keep up with their kids on social media is not just misleading, it’s harmful. It discourages parents from even trying, creating a dangerous gap between them and their children’s online experiences. The reality is that most parents and caregivers can become digitally literate with effort and time. By staying engaged, asking questions, and learning alongside their children, parents and caregivers can play a crucial role in guiding their kids through today’s onlife world. After all, the goal isn’t to be as fast as a cheetah, it’s to be an informed, supportive, and present parent or caregiver., and that’s a challenge every parent can win.
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