In the push to reduce potential harms associated with cellphone and social media use, some advocates are calling for bans on personal devices until the age of 16. The rationale behind these bans often focuses on concerns about mental health, cyberbullying, and online safety. However, what’s often left out of the conversation is what happens when teens, who will inevitably find ways to access technology, start using it covertly. (1)
For decades, we’ve seen similar patterns when abstinence-only approaches are applied to other aspects of teen behaviour such as sexual health education. When teens feel that something is strictly off-limits, they may still engage in it, but without the guidance, support, or safety nets they need. The same applies to banning access to cellphone, computers, technology, and social media.
One of the biggest concerns we have of a hard ban is that it doesn’t eliminate technology use, it will just drive it underground. Teens who feel they must hide their cellphone or technology use from parents or teachers may:
- Turn to riskier options: Some may use “burner phones”—cheap or second hand unmonitored devices that lack parental controls or security protections. Others may borrow devices from friends, sneak access at school, or use internet connected computers in public places like libraries or coffee shops.
- Engage in riskier online behaviour: Without guidance, teens may turn to platforms that do not have strong safety policies, exposing themselves to grooming, exploitation, or misinformation. For instance, a teen restricted from using Instagram may resort to lesser-known, unmoderated chat apps where predatory behaviour is more prevalent.
- Avoid seeking help: Perhaps the most dangerous consequence of a total ban is that it discourages open communication. If a teen experiences cyberbullying, harassment, or online exploitation, they may stay silent out of fear that revealing the issue will result in punishment, not just for the incident, but for breaking the phone ban in the first place. This fear can leave them isolated and vulnerable.
Imagine a 14-year-old girl who is being harassed online. If she was taught that phone use is strictly forbidden, she may choose to suffer in silence rather than risk having her phone confiscated or getting grounded. The unintended consequence? A teen left to navigate a dangerous situation alone.
The reality, if a teen gets into a dangerous situation, such as being manipulated by an online predator, scammed, or pressured to share explicit images, most may be far less likely to reach out for help if they fear punishment for simply having a phone in the first place. This is something we hear from youth and teen all the time here at the White Hatter.
If the goal is to protect teens from online risks, the solution isn’t fear-based restrictions, it’s equipping them with the tools to navigate digital spaces safely. A “pave the way” approach, rather than “delay is the way,” gives teens the opportunity to learn responsible use under parental guidance. (2)
Reducing harm should always be a goal, but harm reduction doesn’t mean forcing teens to abstain from the use of technology, it means giving them the tools, knowledge, and support to navigate the onlife world safely. If bans push teens into secrecy, they become more vulnerable, not less.
Instead of asking, “How do we keep our kids away from phones?” the better question is: “How do we prepare them to use technology safely and responsibly?” The answer lies not in fear-based restrictions but in empowering them with the skills they need to thrive in an increasingly connected world.
By replacing prohibition with education and guidance, we ensure that young people develop the critical thinking and digital literacy skills they need to thrive in an increasingly connected world, rather than forcing them into riskier, unregulated spaces where they face even greater dangers.
Banning cellphones and social media until age 16 may seem like a protective measure, but in reality, it risks creating more harm than good. Restriction alone does not prevent technology use; it merely drives it into secrecy, where teens are more likely to engage in riskier behaviours, use unregulated platforms, and avoid seeking help when they need it most.
History has shown that abstinence-only approaches rarely succeed in preventing engagement in activities deemed off-limits, whether it’s sex education, drug prevention, or technology use. Instead of fostering safety, strict prohibitions often leave young people unprepared, uninformed, and vulnerable. The onlife world is an inescapable part of modern life, and delaying access without guidance only increases the likelihood that teens will explore it without the necessary skills to do so safely.
If the goal is truly to protect teens, the solution isn’t a blanket ban, it’s education, mentorship, and open communication combined with age and developmentally appropriate technology. By teaching responsible digital habits early and allowing teens to develop skills under parental supervision, we create a safer and more informed generation. A “pave the way” approach ensures they can make smart, responsible choices in digital spaces, rather than being left to navigate the online world in isolation.
The question isn’t how to keep teens away from technology, but how to prepare them for it. The answer lies in trust, education, and equipping them with the knowledge, age and developmentally appropriate access to technology, and critical thinking they need to thrive in an increasingly connected world.
A safer digital future isn’t built on bans, it’s built on trust, education, and preparation.
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The White Hatter
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