Online Parenting Book

Free Resource Helping Parents & Caregivers Navigate Their Kids Online to be Safer on the Internet

Chapter 1: The Good

Chapter 2: The Bad

Chapter 3: Why Teen Are Attracted To Social Media

Chapter 4: Online Safety, Security, Privacy and Digital Literacy

Chapter 5: Get Technology Out Of The Bedroom

Chapter 6: Online Parenting Strategies

Chapter 7: Creating An Onlife Balance With Your Kids

Chapter 8: Deciphering Memes, What to Make of The Inside Jokes of The Internet

Chapter 9: Dopamine – Facts vs Fear

Chapter 10: Online Gaming

Chapter 11: Smartphones

Chapter 12: Online Privacy, Filtering/Monitoring Hardware And Software

Chapter 13: Digital Peer Aggression (Cyberbullying)

Chapter 14: Teen Digital Relationship Abuse

Chapter 15: Social Comparison and Body Image

Chapter 16: Online Pornography And Hypersexualization

Chapter 17: Online Sexual Predation And Exploitation

Chapter 18: Intimate Images, Nudes, Sexting, Deepfakes, and Sugaring

Chapter 19: Sextortion

Chapter 20: Reporting a Digital Crime: What to Expect from The Police

Chapter 21 Online Dating

Chapter 22: Non-Fungible Tokens – NFTs

Chapter 23: Vaping

Chapter 24: What is The Deep and Dark Web?

Chapter 25: Artificial Intelligence (AI) 

Chapter 26: An Onlife Road Map For Parents



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When we first decided to write, we struggled with publishing a traditional book or a web book. Given how the “onlife world” is constantly changing, we feared the contents of a traditionally published book would quickly become outdated.  For those who have never heard of the term “onlife world”, it was originally coined by Professor Luciano Floridi at the University of Oxford, to describe the impact of information and communications technologies upon the human condition. Unlike the Boomer generation who still see a difference between the online and offline world, today’s generation does not recognize this difference, thus why the phrase “onlife world” is so appropriate.

In the past, we have published an award-winning paper book using a professional publishing company, but this time we decided to go it alone and be our own editor and publisher. We also wanted to learn a new skill and trust us, this was a learning experience.  As this is our first self-published web book, please be kind to us, as we are sure there will be grammatical and editorial challenges that we missed.

Given the constant state of change in the onlife world, we decided to publish our thoughts in this web book, which will allow us to constantly update its content as the field of digital literacy continues to develop and change.  Because of this constant change, we wanted to ensure that the specific principles of social media safety, security, online privacy, and digital literacy could be applied in diverse onlife situations.  We also wanted to write a book that was “enlightening” and not “frightening”, based upon good evidence-based peer-reviewed academic research, and not fear-based moral panic.

Too often, those in our field concentrate on the bad, rather than the good of social media, which creates a parental moral panic that does nothing to support our teens online. Yes, there are some onlife challenges and dangers that parents, and our kids, need to be aware of that we will speak to in this web book. However, we will provide the reader with evidence that there is more good happening online with our kids than bad, and we parents need to start recognizing and acknowledging this fact.  It is very interesting to see how teens have recognized some of the safety concerns that we will be speaking to in this web book, and are now creating “safer” self/peer-based moderated communities that offer a sense of positive validation and belonging without judgment. Rather than depending upon a social media vendor to keep them safer, they are taking agency and doing it themselves on platforms such as Twitch and Discord.

Experience has shown us, that youth who become good digital citizens, will have an advantage when it comes to university and employment opportunities of the future.  We parents need to help shepherd the digital literacy process, but in order to do so, we need to understand the onlife word together.

Is the sky really falling when it comes to our kids and social media? Parents, let evidence-based research, rather than emotion, guide us in our onlife journey with our kids to answer this important question; that is the goal of this web-book.

We want to emphasize that it has been our experience that the majority of our kids, contrary to what you may have read in the media, are doing super uber cool things online, and we adults need to start acknowledging this fact. It is a fact that in today’s onife world youth are using the power of digital media and technology to explore, connect, create, and learn in ways we only dreamed of. 

We know that some of you will not agree with some of the content that we will be sharing, but we believe that after reading this web-book it might help you to change your mind.  Sure there are some bad places online, and yes some teens are engaged in online mischief, but the majority are not, and again we parents need to start acknowledging this fact. In fact, in 2022, PEW conducted some research where they found that a majority of teenagers believe that social media has helped to strengthen their friendships and offer support, while also acknowledging the emotionally charged nature of these platforms. 

One of the challenges that parents face when it comes to technology is something known as the “parental digital divide”. Many of today’s pre-teens and teens are digitally acclimated to the onlife world because they were born and raised with technology. Today’s generation of teens, known as Generation Z, or Gen-Z, do not recognize the difference between the online and offline world.  To Gen-Z, it’s just one world, or what Professor Luciano Floridi called the “onlife world”.

It’s hard to believe that the first iPhone was released on June 29th, 2007.  However, we parents, especially us Boomers,  a term coined by Gen-Z to describe parents even those who are not baby boomers. Parents are often seen to be digitally assimilated newcomers who still see a difference between the online and offline world. This digital divide can often create anxiety in parents and caregivers, primarily because of the fear of the unknown, or what we older adults perceive to be the unmediated nature of the onlife world.

Brandon is a millennial who is very active in the digital world. Onlife parenting of our son was a new challenge that we had no experience with. The onlife world for our parents did not exist when we were teens, so we could not turn to them for advice. By default, we have parented the onlife world by trial and error, and we want you to learn from our experiences. What is encouraging, the digital divide with today’s millennials will be much smaller when raising their kids. Why, because unlike us, they will be able to apply their own experiences of having participated in the onlife world as a youth.

Remember, our role as a parent when it comes to shepherding and mentoring our kids about tech and the onlife world – prepare them for their future, and not the realities of our past. “Back in my day we didn’t have cellphones” is not a phrase that has relevance in today’s onlife world.  As Gary Kimbrough stated in a tweet:

“Intergenerational carping is one of our great human traditions as parents, like storytelling, or artwork.  With it, we relieve anxiety around aging and mortality and congratulate ourselves on being better than our replacements. The young may inherit the earth, but we will tell them they’re doing it wrong until our very last breaths.”



Parenting Tip

Just because our kids have been raised and digitally acclimated to the onlife world does not mean they are digitally literate.  Often Gen-Z lack the life experience to apply digital literacy, and that is something that parents and caregivers can bring to family discussions surrounding the onlife world.  Yes, Gen-Z has the digital tools, and generally the know-how to make them work, but the question is can they use them appropriately and reasonably?

In writing this web book, there were two goals that we wanted to achieve:

#1: We wanted to encourage parents to enable their child, age-appropriate, to engage online in a safe and secure way based upon good evidence-based research, and

#2: Help parents to achieve goal #1


This is one reason why we have adopted Professor Sonia Livingstone & Professor Mariya Stoilova concept of the 4C’s to online risk

  1. Content
  2. Contact
  3. Conduct
  4. Contract

and what we as parents and caregivers can do to minimize these risks



Parental Juvenoia:

Sociologist Dr. David Finkelhor defines Juvenoia as,


“the exaggerated fear or hostility directed by an older generation towards youth culture that causes a moral panic”.


Juvenoia is nothing new, in 400 BC the philosopher Plato stated, “….writing will cease to exercise memory because people will not rely on that which is written.” in 1496 with the invention of the printing press it was believed, “the era of information overload had arrived, and numerous commentators insisted that people’s ability to reflect and think deeply was now at risk”, in 1876 the new tech device called a phone was demonized,  in 1889 electricity and the lightbulb were seen to be an “unrestrained demon”, in 1895 bicycles were believed to cause a health concern known as “bicycle face” in women. In 1907, teddy bears, yes teddy bears, were labeled by the church as a “horrible monstrosity” that’ll destroy humanity, and that this new toy would ruin young girls’ developing maternal instincts and lead us to a terrible fate. In the 1930’s psychiatrists believed that radio, and even too much reading, would ruin the moral fabric of teens. In the 1940s, the medical community believed that some comic books, like Batman and Robin, would promote homosexuality in teens. Then in the 1950s, it was Elvis Presley, the Beatles, and Rock & Roll that would ruin the moral fabric of teens. In the 1960s, it was television. In the 1980s, it was a board game called Dungeons and Dragons. Today, it’s smartphones and video games that are going to ruin the moral fabric of our youth. Here’s a great resource that looks at juvenoia and moral panic throughout the ages


As Professor Shapiro of Temple University stated in 2019,


“Kids aren’t losing themselves in their devices but potentially finding themselves.  What’s more, they’re doing exactly what generations of kids have long done by immersing themselves in the toys and objects of the moment that reflect the society they inhabit, and which will help prepare them for the future”.


We couldn’t agree more with Professor Shapiro’s statement.  Most parents reading this web book were born and raised in one of the above-noted generations, and we would argue that most of us are doing ok. We would suggest that this generation of teens is going to be ok as well.

Juvenoia is also a catalyst for what psychologist Dr. Odgers in 2019 called a “parental moral panic”. As Dr. Odgers stated,


“We’re all looking in the wrong direction.  The real threat isn’t smartphones, it’s the campaign of misinformation and the generation of fear among parents and educators.”


Case Study:

A good example of a parental moral panic, the “MoMo Challenge” that went viral in early 2019. What was the MoMo challenge, according to Snopes Dot Com.


“…a form of cyberbullying prevalent on platforms such as WhatsApp and YouTube, through which children receive anonymous threatening messages tied to pictures of ‘Momo,’ an unrelated sculpture of a grinning figure with dark hair and bulging eyes created by a Japanese special effect company. The ‘Momo’ messages allegedly compelled youngsters to engage in perilous activities such as taking pills, stabbing other people, and even killing themselves.”


First, and most importantly, this challenge was a hoax that went viral. The MoMo challenge first surfaced in late 2016, but in early 2019 it resurfaced in many parent blogs online. The Momo challenge became such a perceived safety concern to teens, that schools and even some police departments sent warnings home to parents to warn them about the danger of Momo. It is important to note that some really good investigative reporting found that there HAS NOT BEEN ONE CREDIBLE DEATH associated with this challenge,  but because of the internet, many believed that hundreds of children had taken their lives, or self-harmed, because of MoMo. What really made this challenge dangerous was how parents fanned the flames of moral panic and juvenoia, based upon inaccurate information, that social media can often propagate and spread at lightning speed online.

Was there a concern for younger kids online who were coming across inaccurate information related to the MoMo Challenge? Yes, especially If a child did not have the critical thinking skills to recognize when a video is clearly promoting absurd and disturbing content that is not based upon fact. If a young person accidentally or purposely saw this “spoofed” challenge, it could have been emotionally and psychologically disturbing. Kids not knowing any better, combined with the moral panic narrative of adults, based upon false information, created the perfect onlife juvenoia storm. Parents should have been using the MoMo challenge as a teachable moment for their kids, rather than a frightening moment. MoMo was a great example of why youth, and even adults, need to think more critically about what they encounter online, and why it is important to always ask themselves, “Is this real?”

We truly understand the concerns parents had over the MoMo Challenge given the unjustifiable attention it had been given in the news, but adults have to be very careful that we too don’t get caught up in the moral panic these hoaxes often unjustifiably illicit.


Parental Moral Panic and Mental Wellness:

Another great example of Juvenoia and how it can spread a parental moral panic – clickbait news headlines about how technology can negatively affect a teen’s mental wellness.  We believe it is important to note, good academic peer-reviewed research is still in its infancy specific to this topic.  However, over the past few years, we have been seeing some really good peer-reviewed research that is shining a light, and providing more insight on this issue, that we want to bring to your attention.

In journalism, there is a maxim known as “Betteridge’s Law” which states,  “Any headline that ends in a question mark can be answered by the word no.” Sensational headlines, known as clickbait, often pose a moral panic-based question in hopes that readers and content providers will share the content with others to increase its circulation. Some examples of headlines, “Can cellphones cause horns to grow on your head” or “Can TikTok Videos Cause Tic-Like Behaviours in Teens?”

Most parents believe, usually based upon anecdotal opinions reported in the media, but not supported by good peer-reviewed research, that social media is causing all kinds of teen mental wellness issues.  Really? How about a 2018 study of 350,000 teens from across the UK and the United States conducted by Oxford University that found,


“Social media use has a nearly negligible effect if adolescent psychological wellbeing (.04% variance) when it comes to depressive symptoms, suicidal ideations, relationship problems or pro-social relationships” (picture circle graph)


Or what about a 2018 study conducted by the Department of Psychology, Brock University and Redeemer University College in the United Stated that found,


“Results indicate that among both samples, social media use did not predict depressive symptoms over time for males of females.  However, greater depressive symptoms predicted more frequent social media use only among adolescent girls.  Thus, while it is often assumed that social media may lead to depressive symptoms, our results indicate that this assumption may be unwarranted”


Or what about a 2019 University of North Carolina study that found,


“…technology use did not predict later mental health symptoms.  Adolescents reported mental health was also not worse on days when they reported spending more versus less time on technology”


Further, the North Carolina study found,


“Adolescents at a higher risk for mental health problems also exhibited no signs of increased risk for mental health problems on higher technology use days”


Or what about another academic 2019 study by Jensen, George, Russell and Odgers that found.


“Adolescents’  technology use did not predict later mental-health symptoms.”   and  “Adolescents at higher risk for mental health problems also exhibited no signs of increased risk for mental health problems on higher technology use days.”


Or what about another academic November 2020 study by Heather Shaw, David A. Ellis, Kristoffer Geyer, Brittany I. Davidson, Fenja V. Ziegler, and Alice Smith that found:


“We conclude that addressing people’s appraisals including worries about their technology usage is likely to have greater mental health benefits than reducing their overall smartphone use. Reducing general smartphone use should therefore not be a priority for public health interventions at this time.”


In fact, the authors of this study stated further in this article that expands on their research  


“We found that, on average, people spent around four hours a day on their smartphones, picking them up between 85 and 133 times. However, the amount of use did not predict a person’s anxiety, depression, or stress levels when asked to rate their symptoms on clinical questionnaires”


“Claims suggesting that smartphones are ruining a generation are incorrect yet remain impactful. This leads people to believe that general smartphone use is linked to poor mental health, and these concerns are common in adolescents.”
“As our research confirms, even if specific worries in relation to mobile technology are widespread, reducing general smartphone use – or pausing use completely – is unlikely to have mental health benefits.”


Or what about this December 2020 academic peer-reviewed 9-year longitudinal study where they followed 4,338 teens.  One of the authors stated:


“Based on this unique data set and thus a comparatively long time frame, we found no substantial relationships between media use and well-being”


Here’s a 2021 peer-reviewed longitudinal study, “Social media use intensity, social media use problems, and mental health among adolescents: Investigating directionality and mediating process”  This study found social media use intensity (how long a youth is online) and mental health were not associated in any direction; suggesting harmful effects of social media use are limited.


Here’s another 2021 peer-reviewed study that was published in February that stated in its conclusions,  “overall, there was little to no evidence showing that technology is becoming more negatively associated with mental health over time”


Here’s another 2021 peer-reviewed longitudinal study that was published in April that stated in its conclusion, “… results do not support policies intended to encourage or discourage media use because of effects on well-being.” In other words, this study strengthens many other studies mentioned in this  web-book that different types of social media have very little effect on well-being


Here’s another 2021 peer-reviewed Oxford University study that was published in May that found “little association” between technology use and mental health.


Or how about this 2019 report that was published by the Mental Health Commission of Canada, that discusses  how social media can actually benefit those with mental wellness challenges


This 2019 report is further supported by a research paper released in March 2021 by Common Sense Media, that can be located here:


In an August 2021 research paper titled, “Positive and Negative Online Experiences and Loneliness in Peruvian Adolescents During the COVID-19 Lockdown” the researchers found:


“There has been this negative discourse about screen time causing loneliness and depression. But our findings provide more nuance and show that, when used positively, online interactions are actually associated with less loneliness. This is especially true when teenagers have no other option but to connect with their friends online”


In September 2015, the US National Institute of Health launched the largest longitudinal (long-term) study – approximately 12,000 youth, specific to brain development and child and adolescent health. This research is known as the “Adolescent Brain Cognitive Development Study” or the “ABCD Study”. According to the NIH, the ABCD study “integrates structural and functional brain imaging; genetic testing; and neuropsychological, behavioral, and other health assessments of study participants conducted over a 10-year period, yielding a substantial amount of information about healthy adolescent brain development.”


A part of this study is to look at how “screen time” may be linked to challenges surrounding sleep, mental health, behaviour, and friendships. Upon the launch of this study, it was identified by many to be the gold standard when it comes to multi-disciplinary research that would help parents and caregivers understand the effects of technology on youth brain development.  This study is extremely important given that many who are tech adverse believe that tech and screen time is negatively impacting the emotional, psychological, physical, and social development of our kids, especially those entering adolescents, and was “changing” the brain of our kids in a negative way.


After six years, the researchers have published their findings thus far in a peer-reviewed paper that was just published in September 2021:


Their conclusions:


“Both weekday and weekend total screen time are moderately associated with greater behavioral problems including ADHD, poor academic performance and poor sleep quantity and quality. Conversely, screen time is positively associated with the quantity and quality of peer relationships. The effect of screen time on those outcome measures typically does not depend on sex. Observed effect sizes are small (<2% variance explained), with SES contributing much more to the variance in outcomes. Though these associations should be monitored and examined further as this study cohort ages in mid- and late- adolescence, our results are in line with a recent review . It seems that screen time itself is not strongly associated with adverse outcomes in 9- and 10- year old children.”


The last sentence is very important, “It seems that screen time itself is not strongly associated with adverse outcomes in 9- and 10- year old children.”

In fact, one of the study’s researchers, Katie Paulich, stated in an interview:


“Our results, found no association between screens and a child’s depression or anxiety. Greater amounts of screen time were associated with stronger peer relationships for both boys and girls – both have more male and female friends. Social screen use may drive that association; video gaming, for instance, is a social activity that seems to foster more friendships. So do social media and texting.”


Now did this study also find some challenges? – yes it did. Again, a quote from Katie Paulich:


“More screen time predicted higher levels of attention problems, worse sleep, poorer academic performance, and an increase in aggression and misbehavior. Taken at face value, these contrasting positive and negative correlations are confusing. Is screen time good or bad? Perhaps neither one: When looking at the strength of the correlations, we see only very modest associations. That is, any association between screen time and the various outcomes, whether good or bad, is so small it’s unlikely to be important at a clinical level.”


Those who promote the narrative that tech does increase aggression, attention problems, sleep challenges, and academic performance will point to this paragraph and say, “Ah-ha, told you so”. However, they will neglect the last sentence which is most important for context, “That is, any association between screen time and the various outcomes, whether good or bad, is so small it’s unlikely to be important at a clinical level.”


In an October 2021 meta-analysis paper called “Screen media and mental health” the researchers looked at 33  separate studies from 2015-2019 and reported:

“Across studies, evidence suggests that screen media plays little role in mental health concerns. In particular, there was no evidence that screen media contribute to suicidal ideation or other mental health outcomes. This result was also true when investigating smartphones or social media specifically. Overall, as has been the case for previous media such as video games, concerns about screen time and mental health are not based in reliable data.”


In late 2021, there was a leak of Facebook internal documents that revealed that their platforms, especially Instagram, increased rates or anxiety and depression, especially among teen girls.  This revelation caught significant media attention and was held out to be the smoking gun by some special interest groups to prove that social media had a direct negative effect on youth mental health, especially when it came to depression. It should be noted that this leak did not include the research used by Facebook (now Meta) to support the statement in the leaked document.

Recently, new contradictory research from the University of Amsterdam looked at over 210,000 Instagram direct messages belonging to 100 adolescents in  the 8th and 9th grade. The researchers found that that teens sent DM’s containing expressions of happiness four times more frequently than sad ones, and there was no significant relationship between the emotions expressed in a user’s DM’s and how they felt in real life. What makes this research unique – the researchers looked at the content of the postings rather than how much time teens were spending on Instagram.  In fact, the lead researchers stated, “our interpretation of the dinging is that Instagram can be beneficial for normal emotional development.http://” 


As Dr. Candice Odgers (developmental psychologist with a specialty in adolescent mental health) stated, “we have to guard against the increasing young female vulnerability narrative” Here are two very recent longitudinal evidence-based peer-reviewed research studies that support Dr. Odgers statement:

A May 2021 Swedish longitudinal study , where the researchers followed 3,501 14-15 year old girls for two years found:


“We found between-person rather than within-person positive associations between social media use and symptoms of mental ill health. This suggests that social media use may serve as an indicator rather than a determinant of risk of mental health problems among adolescents.


In a 2019 Canadian-based longitudinal study , that followed 594 adolescents for two years found:


“…social-media use did not predict depressive symptoms over time for males or females. However, greater depressive symptoms predicted more frequent social-media use only among adolescent girls. Thus, while it is often assumed that social-media use may lead to depressive symptoms, our results indicate that this assumption may be unwarranted.”


Once again, the bulk of research supports the fact that a balanced approach to screen time is “not likely to yield dire consequences” in most youth. Yes, there are some “problematic” contraindications to the unbalanced use of technology, such as sleep deprivation, that “some” youth may experience (most do not) that parents need to be aware of.  We speak to these challenges in our presentations and in this webbook.

There has also been some very current research just released in January 2022   that found that there appears to be a slight correlation between time spent online to elevated negative health indicators. The conclusion of this research:


“The present study found that social media use is associated with multiple indicators of physical health. Given the prevalence of social media in daily lives and the importance of social relationships to physical health, we call for additional research to examine the relationship between social media use and physical health by utilizing diverse methodologies.”


However, we also must pay attention to some of the limitations of this study as identified by the authors:


“This study has some limitations. First, the cross-sectional design of this study limits our ability to make causal or temporal inferences about the relation between social media use and physical health. For example, we cannot rule out the possibility that people with undermined health may use social media more (e.g., to seek health information or distraction from their dysphoria). Thus, future research should consider using longitudinal or experimental designs to establish causal and temporal effects.

Second, the effect sizes found in this study are small (0.17 < βs < 0.20), although comparable to those typically found in studies on social media use and psychological well-being (−0.05 < rs < −0.15). Thus, it would be important to consider whether these effect sizes have clinical or practical significance.

Finally, this study documented an aggregate association between overall amount of social media use and physical health. Although focusing on the amount of social media use—the most commonly studied variable—allowed us to connect to extant literature, this broad metric does not provide any insight into how people use social media. Given that people use social media for a variety of reasons, and that the ways in which they use social media can also influence their well-being, future research should examine how the types of social media use may relate to health.”


It is medically well understood that any sedentary lifestyle can have a negative effect on our physical and mental health.  This is why taking a balanced approach to the use of social media, which includes daily physical activity, is important.  As you will read in the chapter on online gaming, professional e-gaming athletes understand how important physical fitness is in their sport to enhance their online performance.

Another narrative that we have heard  – youth should be reading more books than reading online because it is better for their well-being. Is it? What about this January 2022 published peer-reviewed study where they found:


” No effect of different types of media on well-being” 

“It is often assumed that traditional forms of media such as books enhance well-being, whereas new media do not. However, we lack evidence for such claims and media research is mainly focused on how much time people spend with a medium, but not whether someone used a medium or not. We explored the effect of media use during one week on well-being at the end of the week, differentiating time spent with a medium and use versus nonuse, over a wide range of different media types: music, TV, films, video games, (e-)books, (digital) magazines, and audiobooks. Results from a six-week longitudinal study representative of the UK population 16 years and older (N = 2159) showed that effects were generally small; between-person relations but rarely within-person effects; mostly for use versus nonuse and not time spent with a medium; and on affective well-being, not life satisfaction.”


Or what about this large study  released in January 2022 where they found:


 “…. in our study integrated technology into their (teens) lives in ways that were not associated with higher rates of depression, anxiety, or other poor health outcomes. Thus, the study findings indicate that most adolescents using technology do so in ways that do not lead to increased risk of negative health consequences.”


This research also supports the fact that parents who engage with their kids in their onlife world, through parental communication and parental participation, those youth are far less likely to be involved in less than desirable online behavioral outcomes. As one of the study’s authors Yalda Uhls, PhD, at UCLA stated, “family-engaged groups seemed to be doing just fine, with positive health and well-being indicators in relationship to technology,”

However, of note, this research also supports other research mentioned in this book, that those youth who are at most risk off line, are also more vulnerable to risk online.

One last important note about this study, the authors stated that this research also supports the fact that we need to move away from focusing on the amount of time youth spend online (screen time), and concentrate more on what they are doing with that time online. In fact, the researchers stated:


“We recommend a shift away from rules centered on screen time. Our evidence supports that household rules focused on content, communication, and coviewing were more likely to be associated with lower health risk and improved well-being”


In a recent 2022 study from Cambridge University in Great Britain , researchers found that during COVID:

“Young people’s mental health tended to suffer most during the strictest periods of lockdown, when they were less likely to be able go to school or see friends. But those without access to a computer were the worst hit – their mental health suffered much more than their peers and the change was more dramatic.”


Dr Amy Orben from the Medical Research Council (MRC) Cognition and Brain Sciences at the University of Cambridge, the study’s senior author, added: 

“Rather than always focusing on the downsides of digital technology on young people’s mental health, we need to recognise that it can have important benefits and may act as a buffer for their mental health during times of acute social isolation, such as the lockdown.


In a further study published in August 2022 called “Disconnection More Problematic for Adolescent Self-Esteem Than Heavy Social Media Use” researchers found:

“we find that a negative relationship between screen time and lower self-esteem is eclipsed by a more substantive, negative relationship to inequalities in material access to the Internet and restrictive mediation of media by parents. Findings show that new media use does not substantively displace time spent socializing with family and friends and in other social activities (e.g., volunteering). Omitting the supportive, indirect relationship between time on social media and self-esteem, through time spent socializing, exaggerates the negative relationship between social media use and adolescent well-being for girls, and for boys, misspecified the direction of the relationship. Adolescents, who experience heavy restrictive mediation of media by parents or have limited Internet access at home, tend to report substantively lower self-esteem than heavy users of any new media.”


Now to be fair, there are some academic researchers, such as psychologist Dr.  Jean Twenge, author of the 2017 book “iGen”, and Dr. Jonathan Haidt who have conducted and gathered academic peer-reviewed research that provides a linkage between screen time and troubling signs of mental wellness. and

Dr. Twenge’s research has shown that since the introduction of the smartphone, there has also come an increase in rates of depression being reported in youth. Our question is, “could this be because it is more socially acceptable for youth to talk openly about mental wellness challenges with parents and mental wellness professionals? According to Dr. Sonia Livingstone, Professor of Social Psychology in the Department of Media and Communications at LSE,  “Even ten years ago, the topic of mental wellness was shamed upon and something that nobody spoke about”, especially youth.

However, an interesting observation made by Dr Craig Sewall (Clinical Data Scientist in the Department of Psychiatry at the University of Pittsburgh School of Medicine) that pushes back against Dr Twenge’s thoughts

“If social media is a “clear” cause of adolescent mental illness, then how do you explain the fact that mental health has *improved* over the past 20 years among South Korean youth? A place where Social Media use is just as (or even more) ubiquitous than the US”

An interesting observation that supports the fact that social media and cell phones are not likely the main cause for the increase in adolescent mental health in North America.

In a 2022 peer-reviewed longitudinal research paper from Stanford Medical School the age to which kids received their first cellphone had no “meaningful” impact on their grades, sleep habits, or depression symptoms.  The research went on further to state”


“our results suggest that it may be time to move beyond simply treating mobile phone ownership and acquisition age as unified exposures or behaviors for all children, and to investigate the potential implications of what children are actually seeing and doing on their mobile phones”


Another 2018 research paper found

“The magnitude of association between social media use and depressive symptoms was larger for girls than for boys”

“Our findings highlight the potential pitfalls of lengthy social media use for young people’s mental health”


In an April 2022 peer-reviewed research paper titled, “Time spent online and children’s self-reported life satisfaction in Norway: The socio-ecological perspective”  researchers contradict Dr Twenge’s early research where they found:


“We actually find the opposite, that is to say a positive correlation between the self-reported quality of life of adolescents and the amount of time they spend online,”


We think it is important to note that the researchers stated “association” not “causation”- this is an important distinction. The questions that should be asked are, “Is social media the primary source for mental wellness challenges, or is the use of social media a maladaptive coping strategy for underlying conditions such as depression or stress that can lead to problematic behaviour?”   We believe that the most current research is showing the latter. In a 2021 research study by Common Sense Media, Hopelab, and the California Health Care Foundation  called “Coping With Covid-19: How Young People Use Digital Media To Manage Their Mental Health” they found the following:

  • 43% of teens stated using social media made them feel better when depressed, stressed, or anxious
  • 40% stated that it made no difference in their mental health, and
  • 17% stated social media made them feel worse

Of interest, the 17% identified in the above-noted research was very congruent with the study done in 2018 called “Social Media Use and Adolescent Mental Health: Findings From the UK Millennium Cohort Study” that we mentioned earlier, that found a 15% increase in depressive symptoms amongst girls who use social media for an extended period of time.

Maybe Age Can Have Developmental Sensitivity To Social Media Use & Life Satisfaction


In a 2015 study researchers found that children up to the age of 8yrs, they only have a “limited or no perception of online risks: when it comes to the use of technology and the internet. This research strongly supports why youth this age should have no unsupervised access to technology, the internet, and social media.


A 2022 study headed by Dr. Amy Orben at Oxford University (someone who we highly respect and have been following for years) was just published that shows initial, non-causal, but suggestive evidence of developmental sensitivity to social media use. 

In this study, the researchers found:


  • Some Girls may experience a negative link at 11-13, boys when they are 14-15,
  • Increased social media use might also affect life satisfaction at aged 19, but
  • Adolescents with lower life satisfaction consistently use social media more.

The study actually found what is commonly known in psychology as the “Goldilocks Effect” – some people who use social media a lot tend to be more unhappy, some people who never use it, or use it very little, tend to be more unhappy, and those who take a balanced and moderate approach tend to be the happiest.

After reading this study, we reached out to Dr. Andrew Przybylski via Twitter (one of the researchers in the study who we also highly respect and follow) and asked them:


“Was the type of social media use considered? In other words, did the research provide insight into what type of social media led to the decrease in life satisfaction in these age groups?”


Dr. Andrew Przybylski’s reply:


“Hi Darren, no, and the data were collected over a wide range of years so it’s also possible that the share of any given platform at any given age varied over the time span of data collection.”


Our question was important because it has been our anecdotal experience having presented to over 540,000 teens, that youth under the age of 15 are primarily using social media as consumers as a way to socially interact with peers and others their age, whereas those over the age of 15 are using social media more as creators and producers.

In an article specific to this study Dr. Orben stated:


“I wouldn’t say that there is a specific age group we should all be worried about. We should all be reflecting on our social media use and encouraging those conversations but we need to understand what is driving these changes across age groups and between genders. There are very large individual differences, so there may be certain teenagers that benefit from their use of social media whilst at the same time, someone else is harmed.”


Dr Przybylski, another researcher in the study stated:


This doesn’t constitute advice to parents that their children should abstain from social media,” says Przybylski. “It’s clear from the data that abstinence isn’t necessarily great, either.”


Of interest to us is how current research surrounding digital peer aggression (cyberbullying) shows that the frequency of cyberbullying is higher in younger teens compared to older teens, especially among those who identify as female. The cyberbullying research also supports the fact that targets of digital peer aggression lead to a decrease in life satisfaction which is reflected in this Oxford study.

So, what are the takeaways for us from this new Oxford research:

  • More research is needed specific to developmental sensitivity to social media use & life satisfaction. We are hopeful that this study will catapult further research and why social media vendors like Meta, Snapchat, TikTok need to open up their data for independent academic peer review.
  • This research is providing insight that there may be “some” teens at “certain” ages that “may” be more vulnerable when it comes to less than desirable developmental sensitivity to social media use & life satisfaction. Frequent social media may make some youth more sensitive to things like social interaction and the consequences of those interactions over time. This means that some youth may take things like criticism, rejection, or even a lack of any kind of response to their social media posting really seriously.
  • Based on this research, and the fact that we cannot yet predict which youth are most at risk, we believe that it is reasonable for parents and caregivers to ensure they balance the type of social media and apps used by youth under the age of 15yrs specific to consumption vs creation and tech usage. Our article “Creating A Digital Onlife Balance” can help with this parental responsibility and is something that we speak about in Chapter 9.

Tech, Neuroplasticity, and The Brain

As a family, we became very aware of how infant and youth brains are very malleable to environmental demands, and thus, the brain can rewire itself to learn new skills. A part of this journey was a book recommended to us by our neurologist called, “The Brain That Changes Itself” which dives deeply into the science behind what is called neuroplasticity. Because the human brain is malleable, especially among youth, repetition of skills can induce long-term changes in the structure of the brain

So, what does this have to do with technology – research is starting to emerge showing that there may be an association between the amount of time a person spends on the Internet, what they are doing with that time (passive vs active), and how the amount of time spent online could cause changes in the brain.


According to this emerging research, there is a possibility that heavy online use could either have a positive or negative effect on brain structure, function and therefore cognitive processes depending upon age. As the above-noted study stated:

This may be of particular relevance to the developing brains of children and adolescents, as many cognitive processes (particularly those relevant to higher executive functions and social cognition) are not entirely innate, but rather are strongly influenced by environmental factors” (like the amount of time spent on the internet and social media).

This 2019 study also found – heavy use  of the Internet and social media (they didn’t define what “heavy use” was) could be influencing our brain’s cognitive process in a negative way specific to:

  • Sustained focus, and
  • memory processing

Both of these can lead to memory deficits where a user can have the challenge of deciding what information is important enough to remember.

However, the study also stated:

“the opposite may be true in older adults experiencing cognitive decline, for whom the online environment may provide a new source of positive cognitive stimulation. For instance, Internet searching engaged more neural circuitry than reading text pages in Internet savvy older adults (aged 55‐76 years). Furthermore, experimental studies have found that computer games available online and through smartphones can be used to attenuate aging‐related cognitive decline. Thus, the Internet may present a novel and accessible platform for adults to maintain cognitive function throughout old age. Building from this, successful cognitive aging has previously been shown to be dependent upon learning and deploying cognitive strategies, which can compensate for aging‐related decline in “raw” memory capacities. This has previously been referred to as optimizing internal cognitive processes (e.g., through mnemonic strategies), or taking advantage of cognitive offloading in traditional formats (list making, transactive memory, etc.). Nonetheless, as Internet‐based technologies become more deeply integrated with our daily cognitive processing (through smartphones, wearables, etc.), digital natives could feasibly develop forms of “online cognition” in the aging brain, whereby older adults can increasingly take advantage of web‐based transactive memory and other emerging online processes to fulfil (or even exceed)” the typical capacities of a younger brain.

Our takeaway from this emerging field of research:

  • It appears that heavy “passive” use of technology, the internet, and social media by youth may cause changes in brain structure, function, and cognitive processing ability. Having said this, we do not yet know if this will have long-term positive or negative consequences, but it’s enough of a concern that it should be flagged by parents.
  • The opposite may be true in older adults experiencing cognitive decline, for whom the online environment may provide a new source of positive cognitive stimulation

Once again, this emerging research specific to tech, neuroplasticity, and the brain confirms our message throughout this book – It’s all about balanced use of technology, and how it is being used (passive vs active) when it comes to the emotional, psychological, physical, and social well-being our kids.  Too much of anything is not good for you; it doesn’t matter if it is food, exercise, or the use of technology!


Again, we are not saying that social media does not play a role in the mental wellness of teens.  What we are saying is that it may play a multifactorial role, both good and bad, depending upon the teen. In their book, ” Digital Media and Child and Adolescent Mental Health”, Dr’s O’Reilly, Dogra, Levine, and Donoso stated:


“There are populations who have faced adversity or multiple adversities, or become of certain personal characteristics may not have the cognitive, social, or emotional maturity to handle digital risks

  • Looked-after children (those in care; fostered, adopted, or in residential care)
  • Children with mental health conditions
  • Children with disabilities or other forms of special educational needs, or intellectual disabilities
  • Children who have experienced trauma
  • Children who have experienced domestic violence or abuse”

In other words, youth who may be struggling with the above noted, are more likely to have negative experiences online as well. Our friends Dr. Justin Patchin and Dr. Sammer Hinduja with the Cyberbullying Research Center have stated:


“the harm experienced online by those who are already vulnerable tends to be of greater severity than harm experienced by their peers.”


Some who promote that technology, especially cellphones, is the reason why we have seen an increase in mental wellness and suicidal ideations challenges amongst teens, point to the fact that the iPhone was first released in 2007 and then became popular with teens in the mid-2000’s. These same groups use a statistical graph from the Centers for Disease Control (CDC) in the US to prove their point in an attempt to draw causation. These same groups only show us a partial snapshot of the graph that starts around the 2007/09 mark. However, what they fail to do is to show you the full graph that started in 1991.




As Dr. Tyler Black (Medical Director of the CAPE Unit at BC Children’s Hospital and BC Mental Health and Substance Use Services, Suicidologist, and specialist in Paediatric Emergency Psychiatry) stated in a tweet:


“2017 was lower than 2015, and 2019 is lower than 1999. the idea that media, social media, technology, or whatever else luddites hate is strongly correlated with increasing suicidal thinking in kids is ahistorical and dishonest.”


Once again, Dr Black, a true expert in the field of youth and suicidality, stated that when it comes to youth in 2021:


“We can firmly paint our kids in the “average position” of suicidality in the past 30 years.”


Our message to parents and caregivers is, don’t let juvenoic moral panic clickbait headlines such as “Cellphones Cause Suicide and Mental Health Problems In Youth” prevent you from integrating technology, in a “balanced” way, into your child’s life.

Sometimes, when it comes to difficult and challenging issues, such as suicide, it’s easier to look for the easiest thing to blame rather than the fact that often the causes are much more complex and multifactorial. Today, that thing is technology and cellphones.

Over the past 24 months of COVID, we have read several articles in the media about how the increased use of tech during the pandemic by young adults has had a negative effect on their mental wellness.  Lots of anecdotal opinions were used to support this belief given that we had no good evidence-based peer-reviewed research to either support or debunk such a claim. Well, we now have the research that was just released in January 2022 “Does objectively-measured social media or smartphone use predict depression, anxiety, or social isolation among young adults?” that provides a contra opinion to this belief.

We love reading academic research, which to most is like watching paint dry. However, we think the research mentioned in this webbook is important, given that it helps to guide parents and adults when it comes to understanding both the positives and negatives of social media and technology. Although we would love it if all parents would read the research, two important takeaways from this January 2022 study are:


“We found limited evidence that three distinct yet commonly-investigated aspects of digital technology use—smartphone use duration (“screen time”) and frequency (i.e., “pickups”), and social media use duration—exhibited meaningful prospective associations with three commonly-investigated aspects of psychological distress—depression, anxiety, and social isolation. By meaningful we are not strictly referring to statistical significance but also practical significance.”


“Our study provides robust evidence that, at a time of elevated digital technology use and psychological distress brought on by the COVID-19 pandemic, fluctuations in digital technology use did not meaningfully contribute to fluctuations in psychological distress among young adults.”


Now, there will always be an exception to the rule, but for most young adults this COVID-based tech study provides evidence that the increased use of social media and tech during COVID DID NOT cause an increase in depression, anxiety, or social isolation among youth adults. Just saying…..


Another April 2022 study from Norway surrounding teens and screen time found:


“Despite public discourses highlighting the negative consequences of time spent online (TSO) for children’s well-being, Norwegian children (aged 9–16 years) use the Internet more than other European children and score higher on self-reported life satisfaction (SRLS). To explore the possibility that TSO might contribute to high life satisfaction or other underlying explanatory factors, we investigate the relationship between TSO and SRLS in Norway while also accounting for how individual, family, school, and broader social circumstances influence this relationship. Countering prevailing discourses, we find a positive relationship between TSO and SRLS, which remains positive and significant even after a wider range of variables are accounted for. By explaining the circumstances under which TSO has a positive effect on SRLS, this article provides evidence of the complex role that digital technology plays in the lives of children. It also provides a critique of the often simplistic arguments found in public discourses around children’s digital media use.”


As one of the researchers of this report, Niamh Ní Bhroin, stated, “We actually find the opposite, that is to say, a positive correlation between the self-reported quality of life of adolescents and the amount of time they spend online,”  


In another 2022 study that supports the above Norway study  , the researchers found that the relationship between screen time and lower self-esteem is not as significant as the relationship between unequal access to the Internet and strict parental control over media usage. The study also indicated that social media usage does not replace the time spent with family and friends or participating in social activities like volunteering. Ignoring the indirect relationship between social media use and self-esteem, through increased social interaction, overstates the negative impact of social media on the well-being of girls and misinterprets the relationship for boys. Adolescents who have limited access to the Internet at home or face strict control from their parents tend to have lower self-esteem compared to heavy users of social media. Here’s a quote from the study:


“The tenuous claim that social media use or time spent on screens of various types is problematic for the psychological well-being of most adolescents is perpetuated through low-quality studies that fail adequately to explore the role of third variables and do not report the magnitude of effects. Perpetuating these missteps may do real harm to the very people reported to be at greatest risk. It is fantasy to wish new media away, because they are firmly baked into adolescents’ everyday lives. Helping adolescents manage their digital world rather than disconnecting them from it prepares them better for the future. Instructive mediation may be effective in reducing risk and supporting well-being. This approach helps adolescents recognize the risks of specific online activities, such as sexting, cyber-bullying, and social comparison, but it can also recognize the ever present and often supportive role of new media in the lives of today’s youth. To maintain the myth that there is commonly substantive injury related to average or even heavy amounts of time spent online serves only to embolden a cycle of media reporting that stimulates a moral panic. This panic amplifies parental concerns about new media and gives voice to pundits, who harken for “the good old days” that were never so good anyway . It distracts from long established cleavages that are clearly related to adolescent well-being, notably, as we have again found here, those related to gender and academic performance. Rhetoric claiming widespread harm from new media contributes to a “techlash” that may lead to bans and regulation of technologies that contribute to benefits in other domains, such as human and social capital . This does not imply that social media platforms are benign, but there is currently no coherent, consistent research supporting their widespread, damaging effects to adolescents.”

In a 2023 longitudinal study, a group of Norwegian children, aged 10, 12, 14, and 16 (total of 810 children), were asked questions about their social media usage They underwent psychiatric interviews to assess symptoms of depression, social anxiety, and generalized anxiety. The collected data was analyzed using a statistical method called Random Intercept Cross-lagged Panel Modeling.The study found that the frequency of posting, liking, and commenting on social media had NO connection to future symptoms of depression and anxiety. This conclusion remains valid even when using highly reliable measures of depression and anxiety.


Are there emotional, psychological, physical, and social challenges associated with onlife problematic behavior?  Yes, there are, and we will speak to some of these challenges that parents and teens need to be aware of in this webbook. Newer research is showing us that digital affordance, through the use of algorithms used by some social media platforms, can undermine mental wellness thus increasing exposure to online harmful content for some youth who are already at risk.   However, don’t believe all of the hype associated with social media, and its negative effects on mental wellness, as being “the” cause of this decline that is pushed by some special interest groups. As Dr. Sonia Livingstone stated, ” The relationship between digital life and mental health is best characterized by a complex mix of positive and negative influences varying over time both within and between individuals – conditioned and moderated by personal characteristics and cultural, historical, and socio-economic factors.”

*** Update May 2023 ***

The American Psychological Association (APA) just came out with its “Health Advisory On Social Media Use In Adolescence”  which is based on much of the research that is mentioned in this chapter Here is one of their finding based on the good research to date:

“Using social media is not inherently beneficial or harmful to young people. Adolescents’ lives online both reflect and impact their offline lives. In most cases, the effects of social media are dependent on adolescents’ own personal and psychological characteristics and social circumstances—intersecting with the specific content, features, or functions that are afforded within many social media platforms. In other words, the effects of social media likely depend on what teens can do and see online, teens’ preexisting strengths or vulnerabilities, and the contexts in which they grow up.


Again, we do believe that tech can play a role in youth mental wellness in today’s world, both negative and positive, but it is more nuanced and multifactorial than just tech. Those other multifactorial challenges that have been identified by experts in the mental health field include:

  • Instability at school
  • Academic pressure
  • increase in school shootings and mass violence since 2017
  • Increased family conflict, family separation and divorce rates
  • Parent/caregiver Job Loss
  • increase in parental distress
  • Sexualized violence
  • Increased rates of racism, xenophobia, homophobia, and misogyny
  • Increased rates of child abuse
  • Housing crisis
  • increased concerns about climate change
  • The current climate of political polarization
  • Increased levels of child poverty in North America
  • Lack of prevention and early intervention treatment and counseling for youth mental health
  • Inflation and the cost of living in the home
  • Student debt
  • Substance abuse
  • Physical health problems/disabilities
  • Teens who have lost one or more caregivers, close family members, and close friends during COVID

Another interesting trend – how some media will actually misrepresent or skew the findings of a research study to create what is known as “clickbait”.  A good example was a study that was reported in a Canadian newspaper that stated:


“Children who have more than two hours of screen time daily are more likely to display ADHD symptoms, study says.”


This clickbait headline intimates a “causation” that screen time can cause ADHD. The actual title of the scientific article was “Screen-time is associated with inattention problems in preschoolers: Results from the CHILD birth cohort study.” Contextually a BIG difference!  In fact, nowhere in the actual research do the authors use the word “cause.” They specifically identified what they believe to be a correlation to inattention problems. Again, a BIG difference!

I’m also confident that when these researchers submitted their study for publication in 2018, they were unaware of research by Oxford University on this topic that had been published; one of the largest longitudinal cohort studies of its kind. In fact, we could not find the Oxford study in their references. Why is this important, because the Oxford study found:


“examining data from over 350,000 teenagers and parents in the UK and USA. At most, only 0.4% of adolescent wellbeing is related to screen use


Also, in the media article, it was reported that this new research supports the Canadian Pediatrics’ position on screen time, but yet later in the article it stated,


“Michelle Ponti, a London, Ont., a pediatrician who chairs the Canadian Pediatric Society’s digital health task force and was not involved in the new study, said some of its findings should be taken with a grain of salt.”


Why did Mr. Ponti say this, because the British Royal College of Pediatrics and Child Health, the first pediatrics organization in the world to suggest screen time limits, which Canada adopted, had now changed its position on screen time, based upon current research, as did many other pediatric organizations around the world? It’s not about how much time your child spends online, it’s what they are doing with that time that is most important, it’s all about balance, and this is something we will be speaking to in-depth later in this e-book.

So, what does this all mean? Based on the best research out there to date, it appears that screen time has little effect on the mental health functioning of the majority of youth. Screen time doesn’t cause ADHD.  What good research shows us is that we are born with ADHD. Having said this, parents should be alive to the fact that they should not be using technology as a “digital babysitter” or “digital pacifier”, which only acts like digital bubble gum for the brain. At young ages, organize screen time into reasonable limits that meet your family’s needs and beliefs, and use it as an adjunct to learning. Again, Sesame Street (positive learning) vs Sponge Bob Square Pants (bubble gum for the brain) analogy applies.

Even some social media safety advocates are guilty of this trend.  As an example, in 2019 a social media safety advocate stated publicly,


“1 in 5 teens is being cyberstalked. It takes only 2 minutes and a password for an abuser to install a tracking app on their partner’s phone”


This same advocate attached a CBC video, specific to how spyware was being installed by abusers on teen phones to cyberstalk their victims, even though the video was specific to adults and not teens.  To further support their claim that 1 in 5 teens was being cyberstalked in Canada, they quoted a Stats Canada Study.

Given our background in law enforcement, academic research, and social media safety advocacy, we had concerns about the accuracy of the stat that this expert quoted. We decided to actually read the entire Statistics Canada report that can be found here:

The report found that 17% of the 15 to 29-year-old respondents were cyberbullied or cyberstalked.

As we continued to read this report, Statistics Canada found that of this 17%, a smaller cohort of 64% stated that they had been cyberstalked. Of this number, only 9.8% were under the age of 18 years of age.

So, given the above-noted numbers, the statement “1 in 5 teens in Canada are being cyberstalked” is factually incorrect, and extremely misleading. It is also our belief that attaching the CBC video, which was specific to adults and not teens, was also misleading.

Teen digital relationship abuse via computers, cellphones, text messaging, and social networking websites are increasingly being used to monitor, threaten, and harass relationship partners, and is something that we speak to in our high school presentations. In fact, Dr. Sameer Hinduja and Dr. Justin Patching with the Cyberbullying Research Center found that 11% of 12 to 17-year-old teens reported that they had experienced some form of digital relationship abuse. PrevNet, a Canadian research group based at the University of Ottawa reported, 17.5% of Gr 9-10 students identified to have found themselves involved in this type of abuse. So, is it a reality that spyware could be used by teen abusers? Yes. Having said this, it is a rarity! This was another great example of how disinformation can fuel the flames of parental moral panic (juvenoia), specific to a teens’ use of technology.


We want to end this chapter noting a 2022 peer-reviewed study ” Friendship quality in adolescence: the role of social media features, online social support and e-motions  Two important findings were”

“the way social media are built and work may have a specific role in friendship processes has been overlooked. It is therefore noteworthy that today’s youth online interactions with friends are characterized by novel behaviors (e.g., liking, sending photos), which largely serve the same psychological and relational purposes as the offline behaviors.”

More importantly, we love their “balanced” conclusion where the researchers stated:


“In conclusion, moving beyond the dichotomy of social media being good or bad for individual and relational well-being among adolescents, our findings support the importance of embracing both perspectives to fully understand the function of social media use within contemporary peer relationships.”




Parent Tip:

Many media sources that talk about fake challenges, or concerning mental wellness research surrounding the use of technology, often fail to provide any primary source, or good evidence-based peer-reviewed research, to support their claims. Before you believe a clickbait headline, make sure you do your research first. Also, remember that correlation does not always equal causation. Some very reputable sources that we turn to include: Dr. Sameer Hinduja and Dr. Justin Patchin – Directors at the Cyberbullying Research Center in the USA, Julie Inman Grant – Australian eSafety Commissioner, Dr. Cynthia Baxter – Forensic Psychiatrist, Dr. Patrick Markey – Director of the IR laboratory at Villanova University, Dr. Chris Ferguson – Psychologist, Mathew Johnson – Director of Education for MediaSmarts Canada, Dr. Margaret Newbury – sexual health educator and counselor, Dr. Jordan Shapiro – Temple University, Dr. Andrew Przybylski – Director Oxford Internet Institute, Dr. Danah Byod – Principal Researcher at Microsoft Research and founder of Data & Society, Dr. Rachel Kowert- Research Director for Take This and Dr. Sonia Livingstone – Professor of Social Psychology in the Department of Media and Communications at LSE -Dr. Tyler Black (Canadian) , Medical Director of the CAPE Unit at BC Children’s Hospital and BC Mental Health and Substance Use Services, Suicidologist, and specialist in Paediatric Emergency Psychiatry, and Dr Amy Orben – College Research Fellow at Emmanuel College, University of Cambridge, and a Visiting Research Fellow at the MRC Cognition and Brain Sciences Unit, University of Cambridge.


MediaSmarts Canada is a reputable resource that we turn to for information and here is an interview we did with their Director of Education Matthew Johnson:



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